Here I was back in my favourite coffee shop about to make quite scary decision (well scary for me anyway). I am sitting there thinking about either do it or not do it. A customer (who was a regular sitting next to me) we spoke few times as we kept running into each other in the coffee shop. I got myself in circle of thoughts until I took the moment to ask him for a little bit of advice in regards to the decision I was making. I explained and asked him for his opinion.
He is patiently sitting there listening to me worried, overthinking and as I finished he simply replied ''Domi what is the worst that can happen? (if you do it?) ,, I took a moment to let this sink in. After few moments I said to myself. Actually yes, what is the worst that can happen? I was projecting worries and thoughts into the future about what might happen, something that didn't even existed yet.
It is so simple for our mind to start projecting into the future, make up stories, situations, worries that are not even real. In that moment I realised that whatever happens somewhere in that future I can deal with it there and then, not now. specially working out everything in my head, remember something that does NOT EXIST.
Back then this question really stuck with me and instantly I felt relief, I remembered that if anything happens I am wise enough to deal with it. Is not like I am going to
die, or get eaten by bear if I choose this or that or take action towards something is it. Nothing is as bad as we may think sometimes. We make some small issues into massive issues for almost no reason. I took this valuable advice with me. I can be quite indecisive sometimes and this really helped and helps me to this day to make decisions quicker without having to make up all the scenarios of the outcome, remember they DONT EXIST! It takes me back to simplicity, because the answer to that question is NOTHING! Nothing so bad that I wouldn't be able to handle.
So next time you are going to make any decision or wanting to take action, step out of your comfort zone or feel uncertain ''ask yourself,, or imagine a friend asking you WHAT IS THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN?
Much love
Lilu xx
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