There is so many things I want to talk about and share, more so through my own experiences. Right now I feel like I don't know what to share. I have probably million things I could share but it doesn't feel aligned with this evening.
What I more feel like is talking about is actually not knowing. I don't know what to share but not knowing is still knowing because I don't know and I am honest about it. Sometimes we just don't know and that is ok too. Sometimes we don't have all the answers or know everything. Not knowing could be a opportunity to explore the unknown. Perhaps to surrender into what is.
We like to be in control or at least feel like we are in control but it might not be a good thing at times for extended period of time. Well I like-no scratch that, ok more like I feel the need to be in control. I do have the need for things to be my way, I am fully aware of it and I admit it.
In long run constantly being in control we lose the excitement of the unknown. Do you remember a time when you truly surrendered and didn't control something? maybe some spontaneous experience you have had? You released expectation and didn't worry about any outcome? I can recall some myself, specially since 2019 my lifestyle is pretty much in the unknown and I love it (For many years I had fear about the unknown and I was so sick of it I decided to face it, fear of not having a job, enough money and fear of not having a home so in December 2019 I quit both, my job and left my house with £1200 in my pocket. (I will share more about this another time but back to what I was saying. Almost all of those moments ended up being great, and to definitely remember for the rest of my life). What about you? Can you recall some moments? Small or big it doesn't matter. The important bit here is the reason these were great is because we let go of control, we let go of expectations, we surrender and we are in the moment. We allow anything to be and we do what feels right in the moment. We are not spending time overthinking, we just are! We trust!
There is a downfall when it comes to having expectations, and being constantly in control sometimes because when our expectations are not met we get upset. Another way to put it is when we have expectations we are also setting up a limitation. Let me give you example. You are going on holiday to a place you have been before. Same hotel and back when you visited last time you had a beautiful room with balcony and fantastic view at the ocean, happy days. So as you were so happy and satisfied you want to make sure when you do book the hotel you want to get the same room. Why wouldn't you it was great. (The underlying thing here is that we might be wanting to rec
reate the experience we have had) so here we are ''trying to be in control, having expectations even if it means calling to the manager to make sure you get the room! ,, You'd do anything to get the room again.
I will give you 2 different scenarios here.
You will manage to get the room (as you tried so hard to get it). You arrive at the hotel get your keys and you are happy. You get into your room remembering how great it was last time, looking at the same great view you had last time. Yay..
1 night in and you find out that there is massive leak in the bathroom that will need to be fixed. The issue is quite serious and it might take up to week to get it resolved. Unfortunately you will have to move rooms. There is hardly any rooms left now and the only room that is available is on ground floor with no view and nowhere near as nice as the other one! Bugger.. They apologise and will reduce the rate and give you some money back, but now you will have no choice but to stay in that ground room that is a bit crap. What a shame. Your mood will change instantly and you will probably be stroppy for the rest of the holiday because your bubble has been bursted now. You had all these expectations and now is not going the way you expected.
Another scenario would be, you are booking the same hotel you booked before but you are quite relaxed about it. You knew the hotel was great, but you didn't have expectations and you didn't control any outcome. You booked a room and that's it. As you are on your way to the hotel. You get stuck in traffic. You arrive later than expected. As you get in to the reception about to check in someone called the hotel while you were stuck in traffic to cancel their holiday due to some reason, the person who called was someone that's a regular at the hotel and always has the best room in the hotel. That person is really kind and said to the receptionist, please give my room to those that check in next and keep the payment. Guess what, the person is you! The receptionist kindly says that your room can be upgraded free or charge to the best room in the whole hotel. Now you are getting about double the size of the room, double size bath, champagne, and massive terrace with view to die for.
This is a example how this works sometimes, we just don't know what could be around the corner. It's human nature to be constantly in comfort and return to familiarity. But once we balance this and keep a space for the unknown magic will happen. Trust and be open to new. You never know what is waiting for you.
Much Love
Lilu xx
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