Very long time ago, perhaps when you were still a child someone may have done or say something that made you drop of your confidence. It's another part, a agreement you may have made back then. Most of our beliefs are made as we grow up but also a lot of limited beliefs are untrue.
In fact you are already confident but on subconscious level you made an agreement that you are not. It's something you carry with you most of your life but you are consciously unaware of it.
Just imagine you are about stand in front of 20-30 people and speak in from of them, complete strangers. How would you feel? I guess pretty nervous.
Over the years I have realised that I was not confident at all. And yes I also recognised that I made this belief years and years ago. As I started to work as Health Coach I knew I had to make changes and do things I have never done before. It was exciting but also very scary because I was about to come out of my comfort zone. Our brain wants to stay safe and protect us so it will be uncomfortable to do such changes.
You know if we want to change anything in our lives we need to learn to approach it differently to what we know now. I was prepared to learn because if I didn't I knew my life would have stayed the same.
I am not here to tell you what to do and not to do. I am here to invite you to ask yourself a question.
What could I do to improve my confidence? What is the small step I could take? After you ask this question you will sooner or later get an answer, it can vary but you may feel more inspired or you may have some new ideas coming through.
What helped me was that I did things I usually would not do. I would approach someone random someone I did not know and went to speak to them. This was back when I started with my business as Health coach and was looking for people that I could help.
At the beginning it was awkward trust me. It was so uncomfortable and many times my voice would even shake and that's good because you are challenging yourself. With this also comes fear. Fear of rejection. However after a while it became more natural to me and I felt more comfortable. I dropped the fear of rejection away because most of the time is not even our fault but the other person might have another things going on etc. They have their own life and just might no be ready for change and that's ok.
Another way I discovered from my mentor Mel Robbins to apply 5 Second Rule. You can find more information in the section Useful resources on my page.
I would count down from 5-4-3-2-1 and did what I was nervous or what i didn't want to do.
End of the day the solution here is very simple. Just push yourself to do things you would not usually do,repeat and see the magic happen :)
Love and Blessings
Domi xx
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